The origin of Family Constellation
The founder of Family Constellation work was Bert Hellinger, a therapist who observed that certain principles must be respected for the love in the family to flow in a healthy way. He named these principles " the Orders of Love".
Hellinger found that each member in our family holds a special place and has an equal right to belong to the family system.If a member is disrespected, forgotten or excluded someone in a later generation may repeat his or her fate by sharing a similar misfortune. Only when we acknowledge and honour the different fate of those who have preceded us, can 'the Orders of Love" be established and the chain of tragic destinies be broken.
What happens at a Family Constellation Workshop
This work is carried out in a group of about 7 - 10 people. The workshop facilitator asks privately to the issue holder to describe the problem that he/she wishes to address. Then asks him/her to choose from the group some people to represent members of his/her family.
The Family constellator asks the "representatives"(the people named to be the members of the family of the issue holder) to describe the emotions and body sensations they are feeling.
The representatives may also start moving in the room and position themselves in a way so to unfold a story which reveals the drama behind the scenes.
Although the people representing family members of the issue holder do not know anything about the issue holder they start behaving in a way that is very much like how the issue holder family would behave. This happens through the "collective consciousness" and "the knowing field".
The knowing field is made up of the energy field of all the people and situations in our lives.We may ask ourselves what this energy want to show us or what we need to learn from it.
The healing occurs when the family disruption is seen, acknowledged and honoured.
Examples of disruptions in the family system can be early or tragic deaths,family secrets,excluded members, famine and all events that have not been acknowledged and that continue to be recreated until the Orders of Love"
manifests with the help of the facilitator/constellator and heals whatever needs to be healed.
" Teresa: I just want to thank you for your role of placing me on a path of healing that I have not been able to find for many years.
I have to admit though at first I was skeptical about experiencing Family Constellations your ability to guide me with respect and compassion helped me at the end to feel liberated from a burden on my past. I am looking forward to continue benefiting from this therapy. I am deeply grateful to you "
Adri Salisbury, Reiki Master